Time-out is a type of discipline that is used to stop a child from performing a bad behavior “isolating” the child for a period of time. Time-out removes a child from the situation and gives him or her time to calm down. It also helps establish that the parent is in charge, and allows the child to think about what he or she has done. Time-outs are useful for aggressive and harmful behaviors in toddlers and preschool-aged children.
Where should a time-out occur?
The place for time-out to occur should be chosen ahead of time, not at the time of the behavior. The following are some examples of places for time-out:
- Crib or play pen
- Chairs or corners of the room
- A designated room
How long should a time-out last?
- A general guideline is one minute for each year of the child’s age. For example, 3 year olds get three minutes of time-out
- A maximum length of time for time-out should be no more than five minutes
Placing your child in time-out
- The reason the child is being sent to time-out should be explained to them in very clear statements
- If the child does not go to time-out on their own, lead them there
- Do not spank or yell on the way to time-out
Stopping time-out
- As a parent, you decide when time-out is over, not the child. If the child “escapes” during time-out, restart the clock
- Tell your child time-out is over and allow them to resume normal activities
- Treat the child normally after time-out; do not lecture again on the behavior