It’s normal to feel angry or frustrated when you’ve been let down or betrayed. But anger and frustration don’t justify violent action. Anger is a strong emotion that can be difficult to keep in check, but the right response is always stay cool.
Here are some ways to deal with anger without resorting to violence:
- Learn to talk about your feelings – if you’re afraid to talk or if you can’t find the right words to describe what you’re going through, find a trusted friend or adult to help you one-on-one.
- Express yourself calmly – express criticism, disappointment, anger or displeasure without losing your temper or fighting. Ask yourself if your response is safe and reasonable.
- Listen to others – listen carefully and respond without getting upset when someone gives you negative feedback. Ask yourself if you can really see the other person’s point of view.
- Negotiate – work out your problems with someone else by looking at alternative solutions and compromises.
Anger is part of life, but you can free yourself from the cycle of violence by learning to talk about your feelings. Be strong. Be safe. Be cool.
This article is an excerpt from Warning Signs of Youth Violence, from the American Psychological Association. To read the full article, visit their website at apa.org/helpcenter.